“The goal here is to create a situation you no longer have to escape, or a life you don’t have to numb. The achievement of sobriety is not the point, it’s a by-product of the work. The work is the point. Addiction is the hook that gets you in the door, and quitting is the catalyst to heal deeper wounds.” Holly Whitaker writes in her powerful non-fiction book, Quit Like a Woman: The Radical…
What is self-love? Why do so many people struggle to love themselves? Self-love is not selfish. It’s not about stepping on others. It’s not about grandiosity or arrogance. Self-love allows us to show up for others with energy and to be happier in our interpersonal relationships. It lets us see when others try to take advantage of us, treat us poorly or do not respect our boundaries. We won’t accept poor behavior from others because…
I first became strongly attracted to practicing Self-Care and exploring the concept with clients when working with survivors of Domestic Violence (DV) during my internship. I define Self-Care as a form of putting oneself first. I don’t believe this is a bad thing. Selfishness, when tempered with a self-awareness of keeping it in balance with one’s other responsibilities, is not a bad thing. The (mostly female) survivors of DV I met had been through such…
